Breaking Free from Insecurity: Teen Small Group Guide


Insecurity defined is: not sure or certain; doubtful, not firm or fixed; unsteady; lacking stability; troubled; lacking self-confidence; plagued by anxiety

Insecurity robs us of the joy, peace & freedom that Jesus has for us & instead leaves us depressed, stressed & jealous!

Story: (Leader share a personal story of a time when you were struggling with insecurity & how it robbed you of joy, peace & freedom)

Everyone of us deals with insecurity & some of us worse than others! But the good news is this –  Jesus came to break us free from insecurity!

Drama: Get volunteers to act out the following scenarios…

Two girls who are close friends are talking at school when a beautiful girl, who jut moved to the area & is new to the school, walks up to them to introduce herself hoping she can meet new friends.

  • Scene 1: How would the two girls respond if they were insecure about themselves & their looks?
  • Scene 2: How would the two girls respond if they were secure in Christ?

Two brothers are hanging out when the younger brother gets a phone call that he just won a new ipad mini!

  • Scene 1 How would the older brother respond if he were insecure in himself?
  • Scene 2 How would the older brother respond if he were secure in Christ?


  • (Leaders introduce yourselves & have students share their names)
  • (Leaders remind students that God wants to speak through his Word & that small groups are to be free from distractions!
  • Pass out Bibles to those who don’t have one!

Bible Story: Thousands of years ago lived two Kings of Israel! The 1st King’s name was Saul. God loved Saul & chose him to be a great king as long as he would obey & find his security in God! However, as Saul grew in power, he turned from God & found his identity & security in his throne. Therefore, God rejected Saul as king & chose instead a young sheep herder named David to be the next king. Because David loved God with all his heart & found his security in God, he grew in wisdom & power & became a brave warrior! A time came when Israel faced an epic battle with their arch-enemies “The Philistines,” who had a a huge ugly giant named Goliath! Because King Saul & the rest of his army didn’t trust God nor find their faith & identity in him, they were afraid & would not fight the giant! But David, full of faith & trust in God, stepped up for King Saul & killed the giant with his slingshot & saved Israel from defeat! Lets find out what happens next…

Read 1 Samuel 18:6-12 – There is much we can learn from this Bible story about the curse of insecurity vs. letting Jesus break us free from insecurity!

Q What did David do to be treated so harshly like this by King Saul? (Nothing!) Insecurity doesn’t just hurt you, it hurts others!

Q What were the manifestations of Saul’s insecurity in V8, (Angry & displeased), V9 (suspicious), V11 (Destructive)? After Saul tried to kill David, David ran for his life & hid in a cave with his men!

Read 1 Samuel 24:1-12

Q How would you like to be David – stuck in a dark unventilated cave while someone is using it as a bathroom?

Q Why didn’t David kill King Saul when he had the chance? (David was so secure in God that he trusted God to avenge him & do what he wanted with Saul when he wanted to do it)

Q When people who are insecure hurt you, do you trust God to avenge you or do you lash out & try to hurt them back?

Q What was the main difference between the two kings? (Saul was insecure in himself, but David was secure in God)

Q What was the end result of these two kings lives? (Saul ended up losing everything including his life, but David rose to power & became Israel’s greatest King from whom Jesus Christ came)

Which king in the story are you – Saul or David? If you are more like Saul right now, the good news is Jesus came to break you free from insecurity!

Now that we know what insecurity is & what it does, how do we allow Jesus to break us free?

#1 Admit that you have some insecurities!

 Q Why should we admit our insecurities to God, each other & ourselves? (“Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.” James 5:16)

After we can admit this, we can then begin to overcome insecurity by doing two important things…

#2 Read Gods Word and act on it!

Q Why read the Bible? (“All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.”  2 Timothy 3:16-17)

Don’t let your feelings lead you, let Gods WORD of TRUTH lead you!

 #3 PRAY!

Q Why pray? (“The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results.” James 5:16)

Jesus came to break you free from insecurity!


  • Break into gender specific groups if not already & into even smaller groups of like 3 or 4 if you have enough leaders.
  • Leaders start & have everyone “Admit” the areas of your lives where you suffer from insecurity
  • Leaders determine which way to pray depending on your group…
    • 1 Everyone pray for the needs of the person on their right side
    • 2 One at a time, everyone praise God out loud by thanking him for at least one thing & pray out loud by asking for God’s help with at least one thing

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